I bet one of the first things that comes to mind when you think of February is pink hearts, roses, boxes of chocolate, and well LOVE. I must admit {besides my birthday} Valentine’s Day is one of the first things that pops in my head when someone mentions the month of February. February, aka, the love month.

I know a lot of you know that I recently got engaged and I am so excited to pop that bottle of champagne that was gifted to us specially designed for our “First Valentine’s Day Engaged’, but that’s not what I am here to talk about. I am here to talk about loving yourself first.

Loving yourself can be a struggle, I know because I {like everyone else} struggle with this topic regularly. I am consistently criticizing my appearance, my success, my goals, my health, and the list goes on and on. This past week I got to try on wedding dresses for the first time, and I must admit, I was guilty of pointing out all the flaws I saw with my body in each dress. This should have been a time for celebration, not a time to self-shame.

We can be our own worst enemy friends. We are the ones standing at the door saying, we don’t deserve to be here or we are not smart enough to pull this off. Sometimes there is so much negative self-talk that we soon start to believe that maybe this “talk” is actually our reality, so we pull back.

And why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we allow ourselves to talk with so much cynicism? We wouldn’t allow others to speak to us in that manner, so why do we allow ourselves?

I have been reading and listening to a lot of podcasts recently about the power of mindset. Over the years we have conditioned our minds to believe certain things about ourselves. This could be set off by a single event that occurred or maybe it was multiple events that occurred, or maybe it was absolutely nothing at all, we just believe it to believe it.

 For example, for several years I believed that I was unlovable. That’s right people, I really thought that I was going to be alone FOREVER.  Was that true by any means, not at all, but it was what I had believed.

Although I have worked my way out of this “unlovable” mindset, I am still working my way through other negative mindsets. So, seeing that we are still fresh in the new year, can we make a pledge lady… let’s shift our mindsets about ourselves. Let’s learn to love ourselves for our own appearances, our own successes, our own goals, our own health, etc. And anytime we think about the negative opinions we put on ourselves, we cut off that thought and replace it with a positive one, heck, make it three positive ones!

So, what does this all have to do with fashion and clothing…well it doesn’t really, this is more about loving who you are and believing that you are someone great. So next time you think of February, use it as a reminder to check your mindset and remember how truly great you really are. 

Best Wishes-



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